"Hello my name is Carrie. I am Kim's younger sister and the biological mother of BG. Kim and I have never been close when I was growing up maybe because we were 8 years apart or maybe because I was a spoiled brat. I would like to think it was the former reason because lets face it who wants to admit they are a brat. Not me. However the more mature I've become (which has been the last year) I know its the latter part. No matter how much of a brat I was I loved my sister very much. I still do today just a lot more because now there is respect involved. Two years ago, I asked Alex and Kim to take care of my newborn baby and give her the love she needs. Kim told me she would take her and I could see her as often as possible which was probably not that often. And she would keep me posted on everything. Kim has done just that. She kept me posted on her feeding schedule, nap times, bed times, bath times, doctors appointments and how she interacts with her sibling. She also sends me pictures. The information I would receive was bittersweet. I loved hearing about BG, I love knowing all the stuff Kim tells me however at the same time it pained me that I couldn't be there. It was very hard to let go of her, its hard to watch her grow up in pictures and its hard that she doesn't know me or I her. What has helped me get through it was knowing Kim and Alex was taking care of her. I know they have her best interest at heart and so do I. I dont know what the future holds for me or BG, I know Kim and Alex will not keep me from BG and that whats important to me. As long as I have a place in my baby girls life then I'm happy and grateful. BG might always live with Kim and Alex, I dont know that for sure. I do know that I am willing to do whatever it takes to make the transition into their lives as easy as possible. I am very blessed to have the family I have."
Carrie
11 comments:
I love you King Family and you are all doing such a wonderful thing for this little girl.
Sarah
Welcome Carrie!
Good to hear from you.
BG looks like a very happy little girl. Happiness is the biggest gift you could give to her!
I'm sure she will always be thankful to you.
I wanted to introduce all of you to my little sister, Carrie, as she will be released in just 40 short days. So you may be seeing her appear on my blog soon.
That's an exiting news!
Kim, what a sweet big sister!
WOW! It is so amazing to see a family work together for the good of a sweet little girl. You just don't see it that much any more. I say Baby Girl is blessed to have this many people love and care for her future. Will continue praying for you and your family.
Sherry
Thats great that she will be out in 40 days. I hope that she can work hard to get her daughter with her. They should be together. I hope that you tell her that you are her aunt and uncle and that she is her mother. She might not totally understand but she needs to be prepared to possibly and hopefully be with her mother where she should be.
What a sweet post! The selfless love you all have for BG is so evident and warms my heart! Praying for all of you:)
Well, this person seriously has no opinion other than BG should be with her "mom" Carrie and that Kim, you are her "aunt".
Nevermind that Carrie is in PRISON for traffic of Meth. Which kills people and small children. Just because a person gives birth to a baby does not make them a mommy and a daddy. LOVE does, STABILITY does and COMFORT does.
I wonder sometimes if people are just that ignorant or just plain stupid. What about all the adoptive parents out there? Should they be called Dick and Jane? Or mom and dad? Or, the junkies out there having babies by the dozen just because God gave them a vagina. Does that make them a mom and a dad? Or the rightful parent? NO!! Too bad the justice system does not always do the right thing but in BG case....they DID. So did Carrie and so did Alex and Kim.
Now honestly, yours and my opinion do NOT matter, but Kim opened up a blog. The only opinion that does matter is Kim, Alex, Carrie and the rest of their family. All that matters is that wonderful baby girl named Anastasia and her well being.
Anonymous, I invite you to do the right thing and delete or remove this blog site from your computer and to NEVER return out of respect for this family that all of us Love dearly. However, I doubt you will which proves my earlier point.
Anonymous, I do respect your opinion and I do agree that children should be with their biological parents whenever possible. However, not every women that gives birth to a child or man that helps conceive a child is responsible enough to be a parent. And I believe that the child should be cared for not than the parent. Therefore, I am caring for the child. IF and WHEN the parent is able to care for the child I will gladly make the transition, and we will assure a smooth transition. However, in this situation, the parent has a long way to go to be a parent. Until then BG is my daughter.
I think her believing that you are her mother will make it difficult for her to want to go with her real mother if that option become available. What will happen when she finds out that all her cousins are not her brothers and sisters. Its great that you have raised her so far but it does not seem like you give your sister much hope of being able to parent her. Do you not have enough children of your own.
Anonymous, it is not about how many children I have or even who is the better parent. It is about providing the best care for Anastasia. I believe every child deserves a mommy and daddy. She did not have either that was capable of caring for her, so we stepped in. We chose to have her call us mommy and daddy because she has 6 other children in the house calling us that, we did not want her singled out. That was our choice. I understand that not everyone agrees with our choice nor would everyone make the same choice. But it was our choice to make, and we made it. We are her family as of right now. And no matter what happens in the future, we will always be a part of her family.
My sister has a loong haul to get her life together and the odds are against her when she gets out. Statistically she has an 85% chance of going back to prison within the first year. I will do everything I can to support my sister, but my first priority is Anastasia. Even though my sister gets out in 36 days, she still has 6 months of a half way house. And Anastasia is not her only child that she needs to make amends with. So yes, maybe you are right, maybe I don't have much hope of her being able to parent Anastasia. But I have always said that I would gladly give up Anastasia to have a healthy little sister!
And to answer your question, no matter how many children I have there will always be room in my heart for Anastasia. And as long as she needs a home, our home is hers.
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