one of their favorite places to eat out at right now is Mexican. I'm not sure if it's the cheese & bean dip with chips, carnitas, or this huge dessert they all get to share at the end that keeps them asking to go back. But we have become regulars at this joint lately.
We r not much of TV peeps, we do not have any sort of cable, but I love TV on demand like Netflix and Amazon. Recently our TV went out and we just never replaced it. So when we do allow the littles to watch a movie they pile on the sofa and watch on the iMac!
Lex is simply talented. He began voice lessons in January. And participated In a local musical in the Spring. However, this was totally different. This was the County Fair! He competed in the county-wide "Got Talent" competition. No musical, no acting, no other distractions, just him and a microphone facing an audience. That is very different. Very nerve wrecking for a 13 year old boy for the first time. Did he win? No. Is this momma proud? Hell Yea!
A balanced life? Can a wife really regain her balance once she becomes a mother?
It's our natural instinct to transfer the love we used to dote on our husbands onto our children (or at least it is for me). This leaves many husbands feeling left out, which leads to an imbalance in our marriage. This fact can honestly go unnoticed by many well-intentional wives for many years. For some this imbalance can go on until the couple reaches empty nest, when its just the two of them, and they are forced to focus of each other once again. So how can we stop this cycle and bring balance back to our marriage now? Michelle Perry Higgins, in her newest book, Stocks, Bonds & Soccer Moms 7 Steps to a Balanced Life, will explain just that and much more.
As I stated in my previous post, Married with Children, I am currently in need of a balanced life. I'm sure we could all use more balance in our lives. Sometimes we don't even realize we are off balance, we just know something is not 'right.' We feel tired, stressed, overwhelmed, or simply don't have enough 'me' time. We want time for ourselves, to take care of ourselves, but instead we put ourselves on the back burner in order to get our daily to-do list done. haha, who am I kidding? That never-ending to-do list is never really done, is it? Well, Higgins, will simplify the steps to a balanced life. I received her book several months ago to review, but felt too stressed to carve out any time for leisurely reading. Once I finally sat down with her book, Stocks, Bonds & Soccer Moms 7 Steps to a Balanced life, I wished I had taken the time months ago to read it.
I LOVE to read. I love to curl up with a cup of tea and get lost in the fantasy world of books. However, since having children my leisurely reading time has dwindled to … well, after the quads came - none! It seems that whenever I do take the time to read a book its for a specific reason, researching something in particular, trying to get the "expert" opinion on a subject or other various so-called self-help books. I usually get part way thru and give up, not readily getting the answer I am looking for. Or I skim the headings only. Or the book is so drawn out and boring I just can't 'get into it' enough to spend my sparse precious leisure time on and end up never finishing it. I am sure there are lots of very good written information to help with balancing ones life, but I have not found one so inthralling. I did not want to put this book down. Even with 6 children, I read it in just 2 sittings (maybe a couple hours total and that's with plenty of interruptions from kiddos). Higgins has truly written an easy to read and comprehend self-help book to help you recognize the changes you need to make in order to achieve a balanced life and happier you.
The part that really impressed me was that none of her suggestions are huge, hard, or time consuming. They are so simple and easy; small adjustments in everyday life that lead to huge changes in how you will feel about yourself and how you will view your world.
Since I received this book for free for writing my own honest opinion review, I would like to send it on to one of my readers so that you can read for yourself just how wonderful Stocks, Bonds & Soccer Moms 7 Steps to a Balanced Life, really is. Just leave me a comment or email me on my left side bar. Be sure to leave info for me to get back ahold of you please. I will pick one random reader on 7/13/2014 and send the book to you!
You can also purchase Stocks, Bonds & Soccer Moms 7 Steps to a Balanced Life on amazon.com here.
It’s a wonderful thing to be in love with another person. You know what it is to be in love and loved by someone else; how you feel when they are always there for you no matter how bad things are or how you can always count on them to make you feel better with a soft touch and a loving word.
That's all nice and all, but we all need to get in touch with the person who really matters the most in this world – ME!!!!/YOU!!!! If you’ve never known it before, you must come to understand there is only one person on this earth on whom you can completely depend and that is yourself.
Be kind to yourself.
Do not allow others to be unkind to you.
Do not allow others to disrespect you.
You do not need someone else’s love to validate your worth.
Without “like” can there really be “love”?
If you can learn to respect, love and like yourself, others will take notice. You’ll have the self-confidence to truly accept the love of another.
Don’t do it for someone else, do it for yourself! You are important!
THE 5 MOST POWERFUL THINGS YOU CAN SAY TO A FRIEND WHO IS HURTING…
Saying these simple and honest statements will help them keep fighting.
1.) I love you and you are not alone.
2.) I am glad that you are my friend.
3.) You are stronger than you think you are.
4.) I can’t fix it but I will walk with you through it.
5.) Thank you for being brave enough to share this with me.
My babies are so excited to go to kindergarten. They have been in an excellent state sponsored 1/2 day preK program for 2 years now. But graduated and will begin kindergarten this fall. This winter they started getting excited, so we gave them the list of things that they would learn in kindergarten. Well, they have pretty much mastered them. They can all tie their shoes, but I only got a pic of Bella.
They can all spell, and write their FULL names.
Alesandra Crowe King
Aiden Crowe King
Ashton Crowe King
Arabella Crowe King
And they can all write their numbers to 100
They are also all working on phonics and recognizing sounds and beginning reading. Mrs Becky does a wonderful job working with them.
I've contemplated whether I'd write about this or not. I'm not sure why, well, yes, I guess I am. This is typically a happy go lucky sort of blog where I try to write about the positive things in life. Not necessarily on purpose, but because that is just the sort of person I am. I am an optimist. I see things happy! But also because I don't want to burden others with misery. I like to think of this as a happy place to come to, but truth is I get much more hits when there is drama. Which seriously just irritates the hell out of me and makes me want to share less and less drama. However, this is MY journal. Yes, I have chosen to make it public, and as such must expect some consequences. I also know that I have learned a lot from reading others openness and have appreciated their honesty. So here goes…
Marriage is hard.
Marriage with children sucks!
And trying to be superwomen is just plain stupid!!!!
My 20-somethings were all about having FuN! My 30-somethings were all about having a career and family. And now so far my 40-somethings have been all about analyzing my 20 and 30-somethings. WTH? It's not like I can change any of it. It's not even like I regret any of it. It's just a time of reflection and realization that "this is it". Up till now I (and then we, as in hubby and I) have been working toward our goals. Our education. Career. Building our family. Creating our home. Now we have achieved what we set out to do. So now what? Just sit idle and grow children???? sigh
We achieved what we set out to do! We did it! We succeeded. Shouldn't this be the happiest time in our life? Those on the outside looking in would certainly think so.
But see something happened on the way to our success, we lost sight of each other. Or rather I forgot what was important in my quest to be superMOM. I thought I could do it all. A full time demanding career? no big deal, I love my job. A mom of 7 active children? yep, I got that. Running a household? got that too. A wife? not so much, but he'll always be there right? it's all good. NO! it's not all good.
So at 40-something, I'm learning to start all over. Learning to be a wife first. Why is that so hard? I love my hubby with all my heart. I swear I do. He is my soul mate. So why do I ignore him? Why is it the minute my children come in, I turn into this superMOM mode. And believe me, being a mom makes me happy. Truly happy, and occupies all my time. There is no time to think about anything else.
However, what am I teaching my children by this behavior? That I will always be at their beck and call? That marriage is not the priority? That children are the center of my world? (as this may well be true, maybe they shouldn't know it). Maybe I need to model a healthy marriage, a supportive wife and a loving mother.
They all love to help and feel helpful, so any little chores they can do they just love. With one or two children its fairly easy to find little jobs for them to do to keep busy and feel helpful, but with 4 of them, this can get difficult. Like cleaning up after dinner. There is plenty for all of them to do but they ALL want to wash dishes.
This proves to be a problem when all 4 try to squeeze into one sink.
Sisters. There is something special about them.
Mrs Becky has been experimenting with hair styles
I ordered a learning center for the littles from schoolsin.com I actually ordered it for them to listen to audio books together this summer for beginning to read. But its also nice for watching a movie (quietly) on my laptop! The learning center consist of a set of 4 kid size, volume limiting headphones and an adapter for them all to listen to the same thing.
Allee and Ashton helped vacuum and since we don't have carpet (only a few area rugs) there's not much to do, but she wanted to keep vacuuming. So I let her clean the vents. She loved it and the bonus for me is clean vents! win win!
Ms Thang! I'm just not sure about this one. Bella, aka The Princess, sincerely still believes she is THE princess and as such should be treated as such. She is not much into helping, esp if it involves cleaning or anything that gets her dirty. However, she certainly is into commanding the little boys. She gets them to do anything she wants. I have caught her passing on chores that I have asked her to do to her brothers. What a little stinker! She came down stairs with her shirt like this one day. She is always trying out new styles. But daddy said NO to this one. lol
Ms Allee is so precious. She acts so grown up. Still the mother hen of the babies. She keeps them in line. They do try to baulk back, but she is pretty persistent. She is the most beautiful person, inside and out. She seems so bold, loud and outgoing. But really she is just her own little person, doing her own thing. Whereas Bella seems to thrive on others attention and does things to please others, Allee does not seem to care about attention from others or what others think of her. She is confident in just being who she is.
Electronics! is the name of the game, esp for the boys. They love the tablets. Playing games, watching movies, it doesn't matter. We have to set limits with them because they would stay on them ALL the time.
Everyone, esp ME, loves going to visit Aunt Lena. Her place is just so serene; seems like not a worry in the world. From the time we pull into her driveway til we leave, ALL our time is spent with family. Together. Whatever needs to be done is done together. Chores, meals and just time, its all done together; from the youngest to the oldest, everyone pitches in and gets the work done. Thats just life on a cattle ranch.
My little princesses love it most cause there is always lots of make-overs and dressing up, which is exactly what Bella likes to do. Here she is letting her finger nails dry (again)
Everyone loves to wrestle and ride horsey. So anyone silly enough to get down on all 4 is sure to get a pile on:
And of course the big boys like to sneak away for some quiet time of playing video games.
USPS, UPS or FedX is at our house almost every day. I have gotten to where I order as much online as possible. Walmart.com and amazon.com are my shopping BFFs. I have all our household product, health and beauty, dry good grocery and even some clothes shipped directly to our home. I love it; it's so simple and easy. And the littles get so excited about the boxes. They love to drag them to the pantry and help put them away.
Apparently this one was a 2-man job...
but they got it there…eventually ;-)
My precious Anastasia after an appointment with our surgeon with her bag of goodies.